I believe the times when people wake up are sooner than later. I don't use facebook, twitter and other 'buzz' stuff and now when I even read about these names I only assure myself I will not be using all this meaningless crap for the masses. You're right that big forum software 'developers' actually CREATE bugs so that they could be paid to 'fix' them and users dependent on them.
Before I chose a forum software (a few years ago) I did research and couldn't understand why so many 'webmasters' preferred the 'known brands' despite they are heavy, buggy, and hard to customize without core modifications, not SEO friendly etc. Instead, I was hooked with miniBB and could create a few completely different and successful forums like nothing else.
Several times I noticed other forums based on the 'mass software' have actually IMITATED and stole from miniBB. Other times I noticed some '$100 an hour' developers used miniBB MySQL engine as a backbone to their own 'custom' project (without any reference to miniBB, of course). I think these lazy and sleazy people pollute sites like Wikipedia and others so that they could parasite from the real developers like you.
But I see a positive change coming. All it takes to break the monopoly (especially search engines monopoly) and it goes in the right direction. I cannot imagine with time people will spend more time on facebook, twitter, and other boring monopolized stuff that has empty, censored, and recorded content and a nice package. Humans and the Internet are much more than that. These days who reads "New York Times" or "Wallstreet" only wastes time because it's a second-hand, old, and manipulated information. The real information can be found on forums and ... below the article as user comments.
Every year I notice people are more and more aware they are being watched, tracked, categorized, and packaged. There must be a break point that will make all people aware of what's going on with their information hosted by the 'nice guys.' On one of my miniBB forums when asked in a poll why they come back to the site, one of the first reasons was that it was like nothing else; several times people asked what forum software was used because they liked it. They also liked their privacy. That is one of the most important reasons this project should continue with twice the speed, despite the temporary 'problems' created by competitors and kool-aid drinkers. It's funny they couldn't find a fault in the scripts themselves (like security or similar), that tells a lot :) Not to mention the timing of their actions equals the time of releasing the Compiler that allows even a newbie to easily install all addons they want."Build and they will come"
is a famous saying. I would change it slightly to "Build and they will be returning."
PS. This post about malicious actions of Wikipedia editors, even 3-year old, reveals a lot about their inner procedures: http://technoracle.blogspot.com/2007/08/has-wikipedia-been-hijacked_16.html